You may have heard me mention in past blogs that our bodies are constantly guiding us.
If you don't put the right fuel in a car, you will experience problems. A quick investigation from a mechanic will then reveal the root cause of the break down.
The human body is no different. When it's not happy, it tells you. The signs could be anything from fatigue, to irritability or anger.
Clients often tell me that they don't know why they feel as they do. This always prompts me to give them the same pieces of information that I am about to share with you.
1. Treat yourself with the love and respect you would treat your own child- this means eating and sleeping properly, taking exercise and relaxing as well as supporting yourself emotionally.
2. Be sure that your actions mirror your beliefs and values.
And if you still experience negative emotions:
3. Do my 'Personal Inventory' exercise to ascertain the cause
Wouldn't it be better to cultivate a sense of awareness and understanding between yourself and that part of your mind that is sending the signals? As with any relationship, this involves some give and take. If you commit to something, you must do your very best to follow through with it- so no more broken promises about going to the gym more often or eating more healthily. Someone once told me that the last person you should lie to is yourself. As with all relationships, trust is key.
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Succeed or Fail
Posted on Wednesday, August 17, 2011 by Positivevoice
In NLP we have a wonderful saying: 'There is no such thing as failure, only feedback.'
Some of my greatest learnings have been a result of mistakes I have made. I have a habit of taking immediate action, which is great - without this tendency, you probably wouldn't be reading this blog or looking at this website, however, as Brian Tracy famously said 'If you fail to plan, you plan to fail'. I'm sure you have had many similar learnings.
That you make a mistake isn't important. That you learn from your mistakes is crucial.
Whenever something 'goes wrong', ask yourself: 'what can I learn from this?'
Some of my greatest learnings have been a result of mistakes I have made. I have a habit of taking immediate action, which is great - without this tendency, you probably wouldn't be reading this blog or looking at this website, however, as Brian Tracy famously said 'If you fail to plan, you plan to fail'. I'm sure you have had many similar learnings.
That you make a mistake isn't important. That you learn from your mistakes is crucial.
Whenever something 'goes wrong', ask yourself: 'what can I learn from this?'
What's your Story?
Posted on Wednesday, August 10, 2011 by Positivevoice
A friend of mine came to stay recently and she reminded me that we all live our own 'story'. Some people forget that it is THEIR story and that they have the power to change it.
For one client I saw last week, her story is very much one of scarcity. 'I don't have enough time or money to take my business to the next level.'
'If I leave my job, I won't have the security of a monthly salary and I might not be able to pay my rent.'
In NLP, we call this living at 'effect' of your circumstances. This means that you are giving away your power by not taking responsibility for your situation.
I am a strong believer in the philosophy that thoughts become things.
Whatever your beliefs, I'd like you to imagine an all-seeing being looking down on you, hearing your thoughts and witnessing your resulting situation. What would they see? What guidance would they give you?
Look around you at your home, your bank balance, your place of work, your relationships. Do you like what you see?
If, like me, you believe that your external world is a reflection of your internal world, what is it that you need to change?
For one client I saw last week, her story is very much one of scarcity. 'I don't have enough time or money to take my business to the next level.'
'If I leave my job, I won't have the security of a monthly salary and I might not be able to pay my rent.'
In NLP, we call this living at 'effect' of your circumstances. This means that you are giving away your power by not taking responsibility for your situation.
I am a strong believer in the philosophy that thoughts become things.
Whatever your beliefs, I'd like you to imagine an all-seeing being looking down on you, hearing your thoughts and witnessing your resulting situation. What would they see? What guidance would they give you?
Look around you at your home, your bank balance, your place of work, your relationships. Do you like what you see?
If, like me, you believe that your external world is a reflection of your internal world, what is it that you need to change?
Can Being Right Truly Make you Happy?
Posted on Wednesday, August 03, 2011 by Positivevoice
One of my greatest challenges used to be maintaining my beliefs in the face of doubt and criticism from others. I realised very early on that I couldn't make anyone think the way I do. You see, there is no right way. There is only the way that helps YOU cultivate a sense of inner peace. Your way will undoubtedly be different from your neighbours, but that does not make your way more or less right. This is a difficult concept for many to grasp. T Harv Ecker did so well when he said 'Being right won't necessarily make you happy'. It took me a long time to fully understand this. The best way for me to explain this, is through the story of the Blind Men and the Elephant- a wonderful metaphor about our beliefs that has been widely told throughout Jain, Sufi, Buddhist and Hindu lore:
There are many variations to this story, so please forgive me if I choose one that is different to the one you have heard.
In the Buddhist version, it is said that a king has some blind men of the capital brought into his palace where he asks each of them to touch an elephant and describe what they feel.
Each of the blind men is instructed to touch a different part of the elephant. When asked by the king what sort of thing an elephant is, each one is adamant that what they feel is like a pilar (the man who touches the leg), a fan (the man who touches an ear) or a branch (the man who touches the trunk). Much to the king's delight, a quarrel ensues.
The moral of this story is that all of the men are, in their own way, right. You see, there are two sides to any coin.
It is for this reason that I choose to lead by example. If someone else likes what they see, they will undoubtedly be drawn to me as a teacher, and if they don't they will look elsewhere.
I hope you enjoy reflecting on this as much as I have!
There are many variations to this story, so please forgive me if I choose one that is different to the one you have heard.
In the Buddhist version, it is said that a king has some blind men of the capital brought into his palace where he asks each of them to touch an elephant and describe what they feel.
Each of the blind men is instructed to touch a different part of the elephant. When asked by the king what sort of thing an elephant is, each one is adamant that what they feel is like a pilar (the man who touches the leg), a fan (the man who touches an ear) or a branch (the man who touches the trunk). Much to the king's delight, a quarrel ensues.
The moral of this story is that all of the men are, in their own way, right. You see, there are two sides to any coin.
It is for this reason that I choose to lead by example. If someone else likes what they see, they will undoubtedly be drawn to me as a teacher, and if they don't they will look elsewhere.
I hope you enjoy reflecting on this as much as I have!
Be Solution Focused
Posted on Wednesday, July 20, 2011 by Positivevoice
This week's blog is dedicated to all those of you who are feeling tired, unfulfilled or grouchy- I've come across one or two of you this week :)
When I feel like this, I smile to myself because I know that things always get worse before they get better. A low point is always the motivation I need to: meditate more, attend more yoga classes or invest in a new book or meditation audio. You see it's not about not about how you fall off the wagon, it's about HOW you pick yourself up and get back on.
I'd like to start by asking you a few questions? Take as much time as you need to answer each question before moving on to the next.
- how is feeling like this helping you?
- what are you currently doing to help yourself?
- what could you do differently?
Now, I'd like you to think of a time when things were better. What strategies were you using then? (we all use strategies all the time)
I challenge you to write about your current situation until you come up with a solution. It doesn't matter how many hours or days it takes, just keep picking up that pen and contemplating.
When I feel like this, I smile to myself because I know that things always get worse before they get better. A low point is always the motivation I need to: meditate more, attend more yoga classes or invest in a new book or meditation audio. You see it's not about not about how you fall off the wagon, it's about HOW you pick yourself up and get back on.
I'd like to start by asking you a few questions? Take as much time as you need to answer each question before moving on to the next.
- how is feeling like this helping you?
- what are you currently doing to help yourself?
- what could you do differently?
Now, I'd like you to think of a time when things were better. What strategies were you using then? (we all use strategies all the time)
I challenge you to write about your current situation until you come up with a solution. It doesn't matter how many hours or days it takes, just keep picking up that pen and contemplating.
Beat Cravings Forever: Francesca shows us how with NLP
Posted on Wednesday, July 06, 2011 by Positivevoice
Next dates:
3rd and 4th September 2011
10am- 4pm
Price £100 per day (attend one or both days)
3rd September 2011
4th September 2011
Price £100 per day (attend one or both days)
3rd September 2011
4th September 2011
Quieten Your Mind
Posted on Wednesday, June 29, 2011 by Positivevoice
Do you find it hard to switch off and relax?
Do you find that your mind is full of all your "to do's"?
I don't know about you, but I live in a very busy environment. London is a fast-paced, career-driven city full of pressure and aspirations. I do a few things to stay calm and grounded.
Like Julia Cameron, author of The Artist's Way, I write what she calls my Morning Pages everyday. They don't necessarily have to be written in the morning, but it is important that they are written. They constitute 3 pages of stream of consciousness writing. Just write out whatever is in your mind. I find that once a thought is out, I no longer need to hold on to it. This helps to quieten my mind.
I combine this technique with regular doses of meditation and yoga. I find both extremely calming. Like any habit, it may take some time to make them regular, but with a bit of effort, you will enjoy amazing results!
Do you find that your mind is full of all your "to do's"?
I don't know about you, but I live in a very busy environment. London is a fast-paced, career-driven city full of pressure and aspirations. I do a few things to stay calm and grounded.
Like Julia Cameron, author of The Artist's Way, I write what she calls my Morning Pages everyday. They don't necessarily have to be written in the morning, but it is important that they are written. They constitute 3 pages of stream of consciousness writing. Just write out whatever is in your mind. I find that once a thought is out, I no longer need to hold on to it. This helps to quieten my mind.
I combine this technique with regular doses of meditation and yoga. I find both extremely calming. Like any habit, it may take some time to make them regular, but with a bit of effort, you will enjoy amazing results!
Retreat
Posted on Friday, June 24, 2011 by Positivevoice
A Weekend with Francesca
In August 2010, Francesca began coaching a close friend. The experience was a little more amazing than either of them had anticipated. By just asking the simple question, 'would you like lunch?' a trend began.Francesca realised that her RAW, vegan, superfood enriched diet combined perfectly with the coaching she provided to women looking to boost their confidence and general well being. The high energy foods she served her friends (particularly the RAW chocolate truffles) quite literally left them on a natural high. No wonder her friends keep coming back!
Francesca is now extending the same offer to other women who want to simultaneously re-balance their bodies and minds.
Francesca has teamed up with nutritional therapist, Julie Deeks, to offer weekend retreats at their homes in London.
Day 1: Energy Levels: 
- Energising nutrition
- Monitoring your thoughts
- Understanding and balancing emotions
- Who are you when you're at your best?
Day 2: Re-balance your body and mind
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Freedom from cravings
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Releasing old patterns and strategies
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Self love and respect
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Learn how to be your own coach
Next dates:
9th & 10th July 2011
3rd and 4th September 2011
10am- 4pm
Cost: £100/ day (attend one or both days)
"Oh My God! I have just had the most AMAZING day with Francesca. I showed up with a dark cloud hanging over me. I felt muddled and distracted mentally, worn out and low emotionally and physically exhausted. After spending the day with Francesca, I left feeling relaxed and calm to say the least. I can't quite express the shift I've had today. Not only did Francesca help me to feel fantastic emotionally and mentally, she also prepared the most fantastic, healthy raw food for me...including raw chocolate truffles that were to die for! I feel like I've been cleaned inside and out. What a refreshing and effective way to deal with the baggage I'd been carrying round. I highly recommend working with Francesca and I will definitely be booking in with her again - it's like liposuction for the soul!"
For further information about Julie, visit: http://nutritionaltherapylink.wordpress.comCost: £100/ day (attend one or both days)
9th of July 2011 - Day 1
10th of July 2011 - Day 2
3rd of September 2011 - Day 1
4th of September 2011 - Day 2
10th of July 2011 - Day 2
3rd of September 2011 - Day 1
4th of September 2011 - Day 2
Testimonial for A Weekend with Francesca
"Oh My God! I have just had the most AMAZING day with Francesca. I showed up with a dark cloud hanging over me. I felt muddled and distracted mentally, worn out and low emotionally and physically exhausted. After spending the day with Francesca, I left feeling relaxed and calm to say the least. I can't quite express the shift I've had today. Not only did Francesca help me to feel fantastic emotionally and mentally, she also prepared the most fantastic, healthy raw food for me...including raw chocolate truffles that were to die for! I feel like I've been cleaned inside and out. What a refreshing and effective way to deal with the baggage I'd been carrying round. I highly recommend working with Francesca and I will definitely be booking in with her again - it's like liposuction for the soul!"
Fran Fowler, 25, writer, London
For further information about Francesca, visit: www.positivevoice.co.uk
Who are you when you're at your best? A workshop
Posted on Wednesday, June 15, 2011 by Positivevoice
Re-addressing the balance with yoga
Posted on Wednesday, June 08, 2011 by Positivevoice
I've always found yoga extremely grounding, but what with the marathon earlier this year and the launch of one or two new projects, I've had plenty of excuses for not making time for it.
I am well and truly back in the swing of things now and feeling better than ever.
I've been following a form of Tantric yoga, called Anusara, which is all about connecting with your chakras to promote creativity. This may be hard for some of you to believe, but I have never felt more creative. I am literally overflowing with ideas.
Yoga was originally designed as a way to clear the mind before meditation, whilst promoting flexibility within the body, so that people could sustain a cross-legged position for extended periods of times.
If your feeling stressed, burnt out or generally out of balance, I would really recommend giving it a try. My good friend Alexa Kho runs monthly yoga workshops.
I am well and truly back in the swing of things now and feeling better than ever.
I've been following a form of Tantric yoga, called Anusara, which is all about connecting with your chakras to promote creativity. This may be hard for some of you to believe, but I have never felt more creative. I am literally overflowing with ideas.
Yoga was originally designed as a way to clear the mind before meditation, whilst promoting flexibility within the body, so that people could sustain a cross-legged position for extended periods of times.
If your feeling stressed, burnt out or generally out of balance, I would really recommend giving it a try. My good friend Alexa Kho runs monthly yoga workshops.
Her next workshop is on 23rd July 2011:
Event: 'Experience the true nature of your strength'
Time: 10am-1pm
Venue: The Moving Arts Base, Islington
For further information, please visit:
http://www.ambikayoga.co.uk/Ambika_Yoga/Home.html
Time: 10am-1pm
Venue: The Moving Arts Base, Islington
For further information, please visit:
http://www.ambikayoga.co.uk/Ambika_Yoga/Home.html
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