As I said in my last blog, I went to a party on Wednesday night. Whilst I don't constantly analyse people's behaviour, I was particularly struck by the lack of one individual's social awareness. Granted; his behaviour was exasperated by the consumption of alcohol. However, it serves as an excellent example of how NOT to behave. Sometimes we unconsciously do or say things, which offend without even noticing. As you read, ask your self whether you ever do any of these things.

He invaded people's personal space by grabbing at arms to get people's attention, interrupting and talking over people constantly. He raised his voice more and more, becoming almost evangelical with his opinion, which merely caused to alienate his audience even more. By this stage, he had a most unwilling audience.

As I said, this was mostly caused by alcohol, but it still serves as an example of what not to do.

Summary:

- Never try to force your opinion on to someone else- this will merely serve to push them away even more: confrontation breeds confrontation.

- Do not invade people's personal space by getting too close, unless you know them really well.

- Do not raise your voice or speak over people.

What To Do:

- Listen: everyone wants to feel important and how can they if you steal the limelight. Sometimes less is more.

- Show genuine interest in other people's opinion.

- Serve as a good example of that which you would like to instill in others. Much better for them to DECIDE to do as you do. Whilst force rarely works, subtle persuasion often does.

- Be open minded: I've developed a great respect for that which I don't understand. What we resist is often what is most beneficial to our personal growth.